Throughout High School, I had a pretty large group of friends, of which over time I could only tell you where some are today. As a counselor talking to teenagers and adults I find the contrast really unique. Teenagers thrive on having as many people they “think” are their friends. While we adults through each phase of life we tend to cut people out rather quickly. Why is this? Why is it in everyone’s year book your right BFFL (Best Friends for life). Looking back I knew the moment I walked out of the stadium with my diploma half of the people there I would not talk to again.
Teenagers feel like if they are not surrounded by everyone they have nothing. Especially those who have everything. They think those friends who use still will respect their sobriety, over and over I have seen this. These kids really only want someone to pay attention to them. Especially their own parents. How do you get a teenager to realize the people that are in your life most are only there for a moment and then they are gone? You can not because they think they know everything.
Adult women when they have children their friends drop them like a bad hair stylist. The only thing that has changed is they have more responsibility. The friend group gets even smaller. I can tell you I talk to old classmates from time to time, but hang out nope. Right now I have one co-worker I go and have coffee with sometimes because it is nice to talk to someone who understands our work. Even people I talked to at football games and band contest I don’t talk to. One person I used to go have lunch with from time to time now that Covid from Hell is over I plan to make that happen.
The one thing that I have learned not only as a single mom, married mom, dating mom is when you really start looking for a partner put your faith in God! Let God send you someone who can be your best friend, your lover and friend.
Teenagers, if they stab you in the back or start drama drop them like a hot potato. They are not your friend. I can tell you three people I went to school with I still talk to I am friends with, but we do not see each other but when we get on the phone and pick up as though it is till the 1980’s.
Let God guide you to the person God intends for them to be yours.
Tina Huseth Counseling
Growing up in East Texas, I have learned there are more people than ever that need counseling, not just for depression but anxiety, children and parents. I am here to help you and your family for what ever your needs maybe.